Jeudi 14 décembre 2006 4 14 /12 /2006 14:38

Although I find pleasant to have some breaks during the year, I never understood this social necessity to “go in holidays”. It comes probably from the fact that I experienced my first 13 years as permanent holidays travelling with my parents from one country to another. Holidays exist in the instant. A ring from my wife when she has an enthusiastic voice, a phone conversation with a friend at the office, a lunch in a fine restaurant with a pleasant are moments of holidays.


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Jeudi 14 décembre 2006 4 14 /12 /2006 14:35

If you want to know what is friendship between two men, you have to listen to Verdi’s Don Carlo “Dieu, tu semas dans nos âmes…”. This is the relationship I feel I have with some friends of the French Military Academy and some other friends met abroad during strange engineering projects. Trust and fidelity.


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Jeudi 14 décembre 2006 4 14 /12 /2006 14:34

The distance implied by the use of a language which is not your mother language probably helps to express difficult things. Unfortunately there is a loose in accuracy and a risk of misunderstandings.  

 

Written while commuting to Paris - France

 

 


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Jeudi 14 décembre 2006 4 14 /12 /2006 14:31

24 years ago.

The year before I graduated she was my best friend. It was psychologically a very difficult period for me with a bad relationship with and between my parents. For her it was even worse. Her father was in jail. As he was working in a bank, he was abused by fake customers and the bank was suing him. Sylvie was sent from the south of France to her grandmothers house in Normandy. At that time, my selfishness and my own problems were such that never imagined that her problems were immensely more serious than mine. We were very very close to each other, but only friends. I never saw that Sylvie had all I expected to build a relationship. After graduation I left for Lyon more than 700 km from home. Before leaving, I gave her my most precious book as a gift and a remembering : Don Quixote.

3 years later her father was freed and she had joined her family again in Toulouse with her brother and sister. She was attending a nurse school. I went to visit her spending most of my money for the train. It was delightful. We spent three days chatting without quite any sleep. She had a boyfriend who was working in a garage. I asked her how she could accept that somebody could touch her with dirty hands. I went back to Lyon. We started writing letters. Some months later she came to visit me for some days in the flat were my sister was hosting me in Lyon. We had a lot of fun discussing and going to the restaurant as well as starting what I wrongly understood as a love affair. The night before leaving she went with another boy and came back in the morning. I was so sad that I couldn't stand to see her any go with her to the railway station. Three months later she was dead in a bike accident. When her mother phoned us to tell it, I cried during a whole afternoon. I didn't understood that she was just having some fun after difficult years.

Since this day, I have great difficulties to leave a loved person after angry words or a dispute.

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Jeudi 14 décembre 2006 4 14 /12 /2006 14:30

My son's name is Valentin. This child is a so-called "gifted" child. It reminds me about one of my few best friends from college. His name was also Valentin. He was probably also a gifted boy. He was excellent at school and got graduated among the very first ones with an incredibly high score. We were playing music in the same middle ages music group. He was able to play very well any new instrument he was trying in less than one year, switching for instance from piano to trombone. Unfortunately, his father had troubles with his business. As a consequence of that (and potentially of other issues unknown from me) his father was scarcely present at home. The relationship between his parents was monthly getting worse and worse (they are now divorced). My friend started having personal difficulties at an age which is critical for boys. He started to drift from any reasonable reference, in particular concerning his political opinions. After graduation he decided to enter the university without any clearly defined project, when his capabilities were opening him all the doors from the top ranking engineering schools to the music academies. His years at the university ended with a disaster. No diploma, deep depression, heavy medical treatments. Years later, he has an obscure non-qualified job and survives. He listen from time to time to some music and doesn't play any more any instrument. I phoned him and got scared by the sound of his voice. I feel I can't leave him alone like that. I have to find the courage to invite him at home. Morality : my duty with respect to my family can't stand any compromise. I don't want my Valentin to become like this Valentin.
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Mercredi 13 décembre 2006 3 13 /12 /2006 17:25

A french blog in english ? I am sorry for the french but I am afraid that I have more english speaking readers than french ones.


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